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Posted By: WantsJustice Damned if you do damned if you dont - Tue 09 Dec 2008 10:18:PM
Just a thought that crossed my mind.

A possibility: I have been accused by the department that I am an unfit mother, and one of the reasons could be because I work full time. I have worked full time through most of the children's upbringing. Does not mean that I haven't been there for them, but I have spent quality time with them, and bought them up to the best of my ability. Financially we have been better off.

When talking to the CPS the other day, they gave me a funny look when they asked about my working full time. Got the impression, they thought it was bad of me.

Trying to support 4 Children, on my Income, let alone pension, is so hard.

If I decided not to work. Missing link (Centrelink) would not grant me a pension, because my daughter is over 12, and they state I have to work, either full time or part time, and if I dont actively look for work I get zilch.

So which ever way I go, I lose!!!

Posted By: DocSniper Re: Damned if you do damned if you dont - Tue 09 Dec 2008 11:15:PM
then quit, inform center link the only reason you have to is due to Family SA controlling your life.
And the burden of it is causing stress and disfunction in the family unit.

This of cos, will be reported up the ladder.
Posted By: WantsJustice Re: Damned if you do damned if you dont - Tue 09 Dec 2008 11:17:PM
Would love to, but committments, have to work... Am seriously thinking about quitting, moving etc....
Posted By: DocSniper Re: Damned if you do damned if you dont - Tue 09 Dec 2008 11:40:PM
and how long before you snap ?. of the stress of it?.
your scared that is all. it is a big step to make, but its not the wrong one.

Im alone, I dont have to worry about looking after anything other then my cat.

You have, you have V: you have to be in good health and in good mind.

Posted By: thisisgood Re: Damned if you do damned if you dont - Wed 10 Dec 2008 12:20:AM
Well it is true with docs, they will twist it all around to suit themselves.

I say 'sod docs' (how's that for not swearing? Do I get the gold star?) and just do what you believe is the right thing for you and your family.
And it is a hard time to make any clear decisions as docs will play with your head - it is a very stressful time to make any changes in one's life.

I currently work full time, have been sucked dry by my place of employment (also known as burn out) so I moved temporarily to another department which is amazing and I am very thankful for being there. But I am seriously looking at quitting, cutting back to casual.

It must be recognised that juggling work and family life as a sole parent is sooooo tiring, with soooo little supports, and is likened to feeling like you have no more to give. Your life just goes. And what for? To pay off the mortgage as in my case? To have a great career/ glossy CV?
Sometimes it is time to pull back, smell the roses and enjoy the moment instead of time slotting everything in your life - e.g. got to be out the door by 7.30am, gotta get Johnny to before school care by 7.40, gotta walk in the door by 07.55am and on it goes.

God, life wasn't meant to be like this.

I recognise and pay homage to all the sole parents out there. Good on you. I don't know you but I understand the daily challenge facing you.
because the government doesn't!
Posted By: WantsJustice Re: Damned if you do damned if you dont - Wed 10 Dec 2008 01:24:AM
Well said TIG, you couldnt have said it any better smile
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